Some people live by the golden rule. It says you should treat others how you would like to be treated. Many cultures have different versions of this rule. But they all mean the same thing: It’s important to consider others.

The rule has a place in social and emotional learning (SEL) too! News-O-Matic spoke to an SEL expert. Tyrone Martinez-Black offered tips on how to be considerate.

Pay Attention!
“People think of being considerate as being polite,” Martinez-Black shared. But it’s more than just saying please and thank you. Being considerate also means paying attention. Be mindful of how other people feel.

For example, maybe your friend is being very quiet. When you text them, they don't respond. And they haven't been talking much in school. This could mean that they are going through a tough time. Pay attention to these behaviors — and ask your friend how they are doing!
 
Be Caring
Taking actions to be thoughtful will help those who may be struggling. Choose kind and caring words when speaking to others. Be mindful of how your words affect them.

If your friend is upset, try asking them questions about how they feel. However, being considerate “is more than asking, ‘How are you?’” Martinez-Black said. He added that it’s important to be genuine when reaching out to others. When you show you care for someone, they know they are not alone. Martinez-Black said being there for one another can help people solve problems.

Be Patient
“A peer may be struggling,” Martinez-Black said. Be patient while your friend shares their feelings. Listen actively by making eye contact.

Play a Game!
“Games are a great way to practice being considerate,” Martinez-Black said. Taking turns requires cooperation. Be considerate on the field and off.
 
Get to Know YOU, Too!
“Know yourself,” Martinez-Black said. Kids should understand how they are affected by others. Your peers may make you feel upset or joyful. The expert explained that you should be able to name those emotions. That “can go a long way in having empathy for others,” he added.

Knowing yourself can help you “appreciate differences,” the expert shared. “Learn about other cultures,” he added. “Other people will not always share your beliefs.”


Updated September 2, 2020, 5:01 P.M. (ET)
By Teresa Johnson